WHY WE ATTRACT NARCISSISTS
AND HOW TO STOP REPEATING THE PATTERN
This book is not about diagnosing narcissists.
It’s about understanding why certain relationship patterns keep repeating and how to stop them.
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If you’re ready to take responsibility for what you attract, this book will change how you see everything.
For readers who want clarity, not another explanation loop.
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This is not a book for:
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Blaming other people
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Staying in victim narratives
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Endlessly analyzing narcissistic behavior
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This is a book for people who are ready to look inward because that’s where the leverage actually is.
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If that feels confronting, this isn’t the book for you. If it feels relieving, keep reading.
THE CORE INSIGHT
People don’t attract narcissistic or emotionally unavailable partners by accident.
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They attract them because something in their system recognizes the dynamic as familiar.
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That familiarity is not conscious.
And it does not change through insight alone.
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Until the underlying pattern shifts, the relationship may change but the dynamic repeats.
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WHAT THIS BOOK DOES DIFFERENTLY
Most resources focus on:
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Identifying narcissists
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Understanding their behavior
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Explaining why it hurts
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This book focuses on:
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The subconscious patterns shaping attraction
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The nervous system imprints that make certain dynamics feel “right”
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What actually needs to change for new relationships to become possible
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This is not about fixing yourself.
It’s about removing what keeps pulling you into the same pattern.
WHAT YOU’LL LEARN
Taking responsibility for a pattern does not mean blaming yourself.
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It means recognizing that:​
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the pattern lives inside you
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and therefore, it can be changed by you
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Blame keeps you stuck.
Responsibility gives you leverage.
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Inside "Why We Attract Narcissists, Three Steps to Freedom", you’ll learn:
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Why certain relationships feel magnetic despite the cost
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How early conditioning shapes adult attraction
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Why boundaries and insight alone often fail
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How responsibility creates freedom (without blame)
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The three shifts required to stop repeating the pattern
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This is a practical, grounded roadmap, not a trauma memoir or a theory book.
Why We Attract Narcissists
Three Steps to Freedom
Many readers describe this book as the moment things finally “clicked.”
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Not because it gave them more information,
but because it shifted how they saw themselves inside the pattern.
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Clarity changes everything.
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FOR THOSE READY TO GO DEEPER
Some people recognize the pattern immediately and know they want direct support in changing it.
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If that’s you, the Beyond Therapy Call is the next step.
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This is a focused conversation to:
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Identify the pattern you’re caught in
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Understand what’s maintaining it
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Determine whether working together makes sense
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No pressure.
No convincing.
Just clarity.
This work is not about understanding narcissists better.
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It’s about stopping the pattern altogether.
TESTIMONIALS
A captivating, accessible read that dives deep yet remains reader focused. Some sections called me to reread, ensuring I absorbed the powerful concepts fully. It held my attention from start to finish, offering practical next steps, insightful references, and invaluable guidance, whether for personal growth, prevention, or supporting others on their journey. – Julie L.
I was blind but now I see.
I lived my life hearing the word narcissist, but I never really knew what it meant.
But after reading why we attract narcissists, I found out how many narcissistic people were actually in my life and around me all the time. I now have the knowledge and the power to keep these toxic people out of my life, thanks to Renee. I just wish I had access to this book before I went through a lot of the hardship in my life. Better late than never. – Sean O.
Why We Attract Narcissists, is a powerful testament to the journey of freedom from narcissism. What resonated most with me is how she brings clarity throughout and offers invaluable guidance for transcending this form of trauma
and transmuting it into self– love and self– worth. – Marybeth H.